Many foreigners say: All Koreans look the same.
Well, yes and no.
They are not born identical, rather their sameness is the result of laborious
and lifelong effort. A successful Korean woman can be distinguished from
another Korean only if the other Korean is male.
Note: If she cannot be distinguished from a Korean male, this would indicate
that at least one of them is a failure.
Not all Koreans are successful, but the ones that are not know to minimize
their public appearances.
If you are not successful and tired of hiding you can get plastic surgery.
It is cheap and good in Korea and it doesn't take long.
If you cannot afford plastic surgery and need to go out into the public realm you can wear a facemask and a visor. These devices are very popular with women who are not young anymore but still young enough to care. These women are referred to as "azuma". The equalizing devices are very popular with me as well. I wear my mask and I am treated the same as any other "azuma". As long as people don't notice my feet.
I cannot buy shoes here. My feet are size 27.5 here, but women in Korea
do not grow their feet bigger than a size 25.0 and even that is considered
excessive; bigger footing is not acceptable. If they do it's their own fault
and they have to pay the penalty. I assume it is cheaper to have your feet
shortened surgically than to have shoes custom made for the rest of your
life.
I'm being stared at. Most cultures pretend not to notice foreigners, but
prefer to stare discretely from an angle. Koreans do not pretend anything.
They just stare straight on. Some foreigners only go out in groups. The
concept: 'Share the stare'.
Who can blame them, I am quite inappropriate, if I don't wear my mask. My
feet are big, my skin is white, my nose is long, my hair is short. They
don't like my short hair and they don't like my big feet. They don't pretend,
they just tell me.
They like my white skin and my long nose. They tell me that also and sometimes
they touch. "White! White!" or "Nose, good!"
I don't like to be touched by strangers.
The only thing worse is being ambushed. People pay a lot of money to academies
that are supposed to teach the children how to speak English. So when they
see me they tell their children: "Go and speak with the foreigner!"
Suddenly I am surrounded by a horde of children, ages 4 to 9. Three of them
say:" Apple! Apple! Apple!" Another says: "He-rro!"
And the others ask questions in Korean.
If I don't respond they get angry. If I say something they alternatively
start giggling or get scared and start shrieking.
So I just take my life into my hands and run, and when out of view I readjust
my visor and advance without further incident.
It is very important for Korean people to not do things that are Japanese.
Therefore they do things they consider American. Like speaking English.
If a child doesn't speak English well, it can have tongue surgery. The doctor
will cut the tongue frenulum to make the tongue more flexible. The child
will certainly not be speaking Japanese for a while after that. Or Korean.
Or English. But after the tongue is healed the child is hardwired for English
speaking just like a Caucasian child. If you give them the eye and nose
surgery as well, the child practically is Caucasian. Mission accomplished.
Almost.
Koreans know how things are done. And they cannot be done any other way.
Unless a figure of authority says that things should be done differently.
A figure of authority can be anybody who is male, old, rich and who went
to a special high school in Seoul where only people from a good family can
go. This Korean aristocracy usually rejoices greatly in making lesser Koreans
perform unnecessary labor and making their lives miserable. The lesser Koreans
who by definition are younger and have less money cannot refuse. In exchange
for being maltreated, humiliated and abused they receive money from the
rich Koreans.
A common greeting in Korea is: "Have you eaten?" Then they take
you to a restaurant and make you eat Korean food. I happen to like Korean
food. But I don't do everything right. I don't want to eat lots of white
rice because there are vegetables and meat that taste so much better.
So I leave my rice. They tell me I need to put it in my mouth. I say I understand
and I don't like it. They stare. They show me how to put the rice in my
mouth. They try to feed it to me. I say why don't you go and shove my portion
up your ass.
Actually I don't say that. I just put my rice in a bowl of soup and it becomes
invisible and everybody is happy. I am also getting money from rich old
Korean men. Presumably it is my moral obligation to make my rice disappear.
Koreans know how things are done. And they don't hesitate to tell me. They
tell me how to eat, how to dress, how to wear my hair. If I don't comply
they feed me, dress me, cut my hair. When I enter a store I can count on
5 girls breathing down my neck explaining what I'm looking at. "T-shirt"
they say. "pants" they say. Obviously they doubt these items exist
in other countries. At this point I usually have to leave.
I also have great fans: Korean women my age who don't want to be Korean.
They so much do not want to be Korean that they do the exact opposite of
what a Korean would do. They so much want to be a foreigner (of the white
kind) that they do everything exactly the way I do it. They eat the same,
drink the same, wear the same clothes and walk two paces behind me. Because
it's ok to be different as long as you are the same as something else.
Feminism has not come to Korea yet. Those who want to escape Korean womanhood
strive to be the like western women. One way to do that apparently is to
hold hands with them in public. This is perfectly acceptable in Korea. There
are no lesbians here. Everything in Korea is the way it should be.
I am not the same as anybody else and I am also different from the way I
was before and from the way I will be. This concept seems to be very difficult
to understand and impossible to accept.
I was invited to Korea to spread western thought. I try my best.
My colleagues are very curious about my western thought. "Which one
you think," says the older professor, presenting to me three male students
"is the most handsome?" There are many ways to respond to this
question.
Let's try a few:
- "They are all the same to me, I find all Korean men repulsive"
- " The Japanese looking one." (Point, using your choice of finger)
- " I need to see their dicks first."
Or let actions speak:
- Close your eyes, cover your ears and start singing "The Star Spangled Banner"
- Flip a coin.
- Pretend you are having a heart attack
But the most prominent western thought in my head is the thought of Paris and what happened to him. So I usually say to the oldest and most powerful member of the panel, they are all beautiful, but nobody is as beautiful as you. (Insert apple here.)
To exemplify my western thought on personal space I have invented a special
belt. It is a barb-wired barrel wheel strapped around my waist.
I haven't yet worn it. For best results, its introduction needs an appropriate
occasion. I am waiting for the closing ceremony at my University.
Letís hope there are not too many bloody injuries as a result. Shedding
Korean blood is bad news.10% of Koreans are infected with hepatitis B. This
astounding rate is probably achieved by having unprotected sexual intercourse.
Condoms are sold in convenience stores, but mistakenly used as cell phone
covers for rainy days.
Spreading Western thought is exhausting, so I'm usually happy to get home.
A Korean home used to be a traditional little house with a heated wooden
floor and a curved roof. But nowadays Korea is a westernized country, so
everyone who can afford it moves into an apartment building. I think Koreans
were watching western TV serials and movies and developed a great fondness
for the federal housing projects depicted.
They gave me an apartment also; the number of my building is 102. The buildings
are on average 18-25 stories high, square, identical and arranged in building-forests.
The numbers written on them (at approximately the height of floor 16) distinguish
one from another. After a few weeks of homecoming I had developed repetitive
strain injury of the cervical spine.
But once you've found your home you can relax. Many modern security measures
are in place: Video surveillance of the area surrounding the building. Video
surveillance in the elevator. Parents can watch their children outside the
building when they switch to channel 2 on the TV set. Or watch the foreigner
take the elevator. Your choice.
Inside the apartment a high-tech automaton with various buttons and dials
controls the intercom, telephone, answering service, hot water, floor heating
(and other things if you pay more money).
This device is linked to the 24-hour security guard outside the building.
There is also an emergency button that will cause an alarm to go off. It
is very noisy. Once my neighbor pressed it by accident and it took over
an hour and several phone calls to get the security guard to come up and
turn it off. Most emergencies would probably have resolved themselves by
then. One way or another.
Korean apartments also feature a built-in loudspeaker. It makes announcements
about 3 times a day. The contents of the announcements are in Korean and
announce the hours of the mandatory community service meetings, garbage
regulations and other useful information and advice pertaining to the building
community. Some foreigners, hired to spread western thought, also live in
these buildings. The foreigners, including me, have a unanimous perception
of the loudspeaker situation. After a brief meeting of our own we invested
in a pair of pliers, located the appropriate wires and effectively solved
the issue in our own apartments.
But loudspeakers and video cameras are relics from the last century. Koreans
donít stop here, they have a vision.
This vision is called "ubiquitous government". Everybody's data
is digitized and accessible from anywhere at anytime. This will enable the
government to regulate everything conveniently and effectively. Ubiquitously,
so to speak
Come to think of it, maybe American television is not the inspiration here
after all. Maybe some Korean in power read "1984" and drew his
own conclusions.
Spreading Western thought can be an arduous task. Sometimes I get tired
and depressed. When that happens I try to bring to mind the things that
are great about Korea, the food, the healthy looking people, its majestic
mountains, the long beaches, the brisk winds. So I go on a walk, away from
the crowds, to the top of a mountain or to the beach. Then I stand on a
cliff and look out over the pacific. The wind blows on me and through me
and cleanses me and blows away my fatigue. From here I can see past the
ugliness of the apartment buildings. Past the congested freeways, the filthy
rivers and the smog.
I can see the forests, the hills, the ocean. And on clear days I can see
Japan.